I recently responded to a fellow Christian on a public forum who has experienced some difficulties in his marriage. Don’t we all from time to time? This was my response to him, and I wanted to share this with other believing men out there who may also be going through marital trials. May God bless you and lead you in your marriages.
About 12 years ago God saved me and our marriage. I still mess up sometimes but he helps us work through it. And I’m sure God wants to help you and your wife work through it. You shouldn’t ever feel like you cant talk to anyone in your church because of your roles. This is an opportunity to lead by example and to walk humbly before others. Confess it. Be honest and true about your struggles. Give God the glory.
One book that may be worth while is titled love and respect by Dr Emerson. I believe God used that book to minister to me as a husband and it truly made an impact on how I view her and the struggles we face.
Love her. Even when you feel disrespected, love her as a response. Pray for her. It’s a beautiful form of worship to God to love your wife at times it’s not so easy to love her. In the midst of disputes pray you can understand where she is coming from, but more importantly pray that you can see it from God’s point of view.
How did Jesus love us? That is how we ought to love our wives. And yes, I too can grow so much in this area – I haven’t come close to loving her as much as Christ loved us. But we husbands can press on toward that goal of loving her as Christ loved us. Consider all the ways Jesus loved us, through things he did. Even though we didn’t “deserve” it.
”Husbands, love your wives the same as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it.“ Ephesians 5:25
